In case you missed it, the gender gap still exists — especially in parenting.
It’s pretty difficult to ignore. I’ve read tweets from parody accounts where dads are subjected to ridiculous career advice that women hear far too often.
Sure, it can be pretty funny at times, but it’s also pretty sad.
The reality is that many moms feel a significant amount of pressure to be on their A-game as parents because of what society expects of them.
But what about dads? Have we been on the receiving end of ridiculous parenting comments and questions, too? Sure we have. It just doesn’t get talked about as much.
To illustrate how completely absurd some of the commentary is, what if we directed some of the nonsense dads hear toward moms instead? Here are 11 examples.
1. “It’s so great that you’re babysitting the kids while your husband is out of the house.”
2. “Unfortunately we don’t have a baby changing station in our women’s restroom, but we have one in our men’s restroom. Is your husband here to change your daughter’s diaper?”
3. “Hey, Susie, if you post a video online showing how you put your daughter’s hair in a ponytail, I bet you’ll be the next viral sensation!”
4. “C’mon, we all know that only the dad needs to be home to bond with the baby. You’re just taking maternity leave to get out of working. Enjoy your extended vacation.”
5. “Not trying to throw shade, but isn’t it strange for a woman to stay at home with the kids all day while your spouse works? Shouldn’t it be the other way around?”
6. “How are you going to deal with the kids by yourself while your husband is out of town? I know he could handle it, but can you? Will you be OK?”
7. “Why are you at the playground with your son on a Tuesday morning? Did you lose your job?”
8. “I can tell just by the way you hold your baby that you must be an amazing mom.”
9. “Why do you have to leave work early to pick your kids up from school? Isn’t that what your spouse is for?”
10. “I just have to say how awesome it is that you came to a parent-teacher conference. We hardly ever see moms here.”
11. “It’s rare to see such an involved mom. We need more women like you.”
Being a parent is hard, but we can make it easier if we watch what we say to them.
When it comes down to it, moms and dads need to meet in the middle of the road.
Moms deserve more credit for the amazing work they do, and dads deserve a little less praise for knocking out routine diaper changes.
Once society ditches the stale gender roles and gets on board with the message that men and women are equally capable and willing to raise children, we will finally make some progress.
And hopefully we’ll never hear about parents babysitting their kids ever again.